"Loving should be fun and self-improving, not self-reducing and servile." - Molara Ogundipe-Leslie
Servile, definition: (BLOODY CHEEMZ -.-, let's just focus on the 1st one :p)
- slavishly submissive or obsequious; fawning: servile flatterers.
- characteristic of, proper to, or customary for slaves; abject: servile obedience.
- yielding slavishly; truckling (usually fol. by to).
- extremely imitative, esp. in the arts; lacking in originality.
- being in slavery; oppressed.
- of, pertaining to, or involving slaves or servants.
- of or pertaining to a condition of servitude or property ownership in which a person is held as a slave or as partially enslaved: medieval rebellions against servile laws.
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A little background of Molara, she's a female professor from Nigeria who was born in 1949. You can find out more about her from her personal website.
I just find this quote is so interesting which I believe many should be able to relate to it. Be it a personal experience or what you've observed for others. For me, it's what I watched from movies. You know, how Homer treated Marge in the Simpson? :p Kidding ...
How many times have you heard of spouse being abused even though they have been sweet throughout their dating time? But for most people, it's not only the physical abuse that's belittling them, but the mental and emotional abuse.
So many people are in the "shrinking" relationship where they give up their passion and dreams thinking that they'll be alright. What they don't know is that like any seeds which are restricted in growing, they will eventually die. And hence, many are living deadly in this earth.
NO! It's not the time to blame people who love you for making you so "restricted" and small ... but it's yourself who refused to make the change and grow.
I believe when someone love you, they want to see you grow and prosper. Whoever try to bring you down and make you smaller each time, they are just selfish and care about themselves. Time to move on and find better people to love.
Didn't our parents tend to be like that when we were very young (especially) and how much we "hated" them then? :-) But when there's a chance for both of you to talk heart to heart and understand each other points of view, you will understand their only intention is for you to be happy and growing.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), I've learned that "Behind every behaviour, is a positive intention." It's just, to whom it's positive, that you need to find out. :) So when you think you ain't going no where be it horizontally or vertically, time to have that heart to heart talk. Starting with yourself then with any related party. Nothing can stop you from growing except yourself.
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